Question #13-83: Is it allowed a man not to tell his second wife about having a first wife?

Question:

Dear Imam, Assalamualaikum.

My problem is I was married to someone many years ago and have a grown daughter. 8 years ago I remarried someone who was also married and have two children. Alhamdulillah after some time we all settled down and our family life fell into place. Recently my husband told me that he met someone whom he liked very much. I did not take this news very well because I did not know he was still looking around. He did not tell this person that he was married. I asked him to be honest and tell her, but he still did not. I asked if he has married this person and he said no, however after a few days he confessed that he did marry her and only after marriage he told her that he has a wife. Imaam I try very hard to practice my deen and to be a good Muslim but this is one thing which I cannot accept and live with. I would like to know if this marriage is valid, given the fact that I was not asked permission or the fact that he was not honest with the person. He's forcing me to accept it and live with it and wants a happy family in both homes. I am at a loss as what to do and I am making duas and fasting. Please, I beg your advise on this personal matter. I look forward to your reply.

Answer:

Walaykum salam sister,

In the name of Allah the Most Merciful,

In response to your questions, please note that the second marriage is valid according to Islam if the required conditions were followed in the nikah which are: Two male witnesses, wali for the bride and the prescribed Mahr for the bride. This is true even if he did hide to the second wife about having a first wife or vice versa; unless he was directly and specifically questioned about having another wife before the contract of marriage and he concealed the information deceiving the bride and the contract of marriage.

Therefore,  I advise you to be patient with him if he is a practicing Muslim who supports you financially and gives your rights.

May Allah help you and make it easy for you. 

Allah knows best.

Sheikh Mostafa

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